I didn’t have a particular need for my birth to go a specific way, but I wanted to breastfeed. I don’t glorify breastfeeding or put it on a pedestal, but it was important to me to give breastfeeding my best.
There is a lot of information available on breastfeeding a newborn. Lactation consultants are available at most hospitals, but ongoing breastfeeding offers unique challenges. I had a difficult time finding information on breastfeeding past the newborn stage, into what is called extended breastfeeding. The breastfeeding community can be extreme and some “advice” I read wasn’t practical or helpful (cue: it’s possible to breastfeed and not co-sleep)!
I’m sharing two concepts which greatly helped influence a positive extended breastfeeding experience. These two tips are the reason I’m still breastfeeding today!
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Phoenix and Jordan shared a blueberry smoothie on July 4th. We snapped several photos most of which I didn’t intend to share, but I couldn’t resist. I loved Phoenix instantly, but my obsession for him grows with each passing day. His toothy grin. The way his hair curls when it’s wet. His babbling and even the little tantrums (get back to me in a few years on that one!). I miss him more now than I did when I first went back to work when he was 16 weeks old. Did you find that to be true?
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This was the month Phoenix began to act more like a toddler than a baby. He slowly replaced bottles with table food. When I am home he nurses several times throughout the day, but when I’m not home he loves the food! Phoenix continues to regularly sleep 12 hours a night, waking once or none at all! Sleep was an early struggle for us, but we are in a good place.
I went away for a night and I think it was harder for me than Phoenix! I was telling my friends I wasn’t sad about being away from Phoenix because I was concerned for him, but because I enjoy his company. He is at such a fun age. His playful and silly personality cracks me up daily.
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Phoenix turned 10 months on Saturday. We attended a birthday party at the zoo on Saturday and it’s hard to believe Phoenix’s first birthday is in two months! And I have planned zero things for it. Well, that’s not totally true. We have a few ideas in mind, but emphasis on the in mind portion.
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I never want Phoenix to feel like he “completes me.” My conversations with God (when we were trying to get pregnant) often were me confessing my feeling that I wasn’t sure a childless life would be enough for me. A spouse or child will never fulfill anyone, but coming to that realization isn’t easy.
All of this plays into my first Mother’s Day.
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Nine months. How are we here already? Phoenix’s month eight update left off right before our five-hour road trip to St. Louis. This was Phoenix’s third road trip, but my first solo drive. How was it you ask? Well, Phoenix cried for most of the drive but we managed. Nap training has been a saving grace for us, but this always means Phoenix doesn’t nap on the go anymore.
Phoenix had his well-visit today so I have updated stats. He is 28 inches tall (40th percentile) and weighs 15.15 lbs (4th percentile). We love our petite little guy.
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Do you listen to podcasts? Podcasts are treats to me while cleaning or cooking. It seems every week I find a new podcast to subscribe too. It’s hard for me to keep up!
Listening to podcasts used to be an arduous task. Each episode had to either be played on your computer or downloaded onto an iPod. The process is much simpler now! The free podcast app on your phone allows you to search and download episodes to your favorite shows. The episodes than live directly inside the app.
I listen to podcasts not only for entertainment, but also education and encouragement.
Today, I’m sharing my favorite parenting podcasts.
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Month eight has been all about mastering the skills Phoenix learned in month seven. Not only does he crawl and pull himself up on all surfaces, he squats and tries to stand on his own! He is so coordinated! Phoenix learned one new exciting skill this month — clapping! It is so adorable.
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A few weeks ago I shared our sleep training journey. The first post was all about bedtime, but today let’s talk about naps.
As a reminder, Phoenix was not a particularly content newborn. He was fussy and cried a lot. After the first two weeks, naps were rarely longer than 30 minutes unless I wore him. Even then, he didn’t peacefully drift off. He cried himself to sleep while I walked him in his Ergo. He woke up crying, like clockwork, every two hours during the day to eat.
I tried Babywise’s routine of eat-play-sleep. I’d witness it work with other breastfed babies (though usually it with formula fed) and thought it made sense. Except Phoenix was hard to calm down. So, instead of nursing him to sleep, I often drove around or took walks. Both of which are sleep associations. The stroller naps worked until around two months when he became more alert. This started a challenging season where, for a few months, the only way Phoenix napped was if we wore him.
This, of course, isn’t and wasn’t sustainable. Phoenix was even more irritable because he never received sufficient, restorative, sleep. At 3.5 months we started sleep training with nights and slowly worked our way towards naps.
I learned a lot along the way.
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I talk a lot about sleep or the lack of sleep we have experienced since Phoenix was born seven months ago. I was hesitant to write this as the sleep situation in our house is not perfect, but sleep for small children is about progress not perfection. Parenting comes with a lot more nuance than books account for and while books have their place, I love hearing real situations. Real situations with specifics.
Several of you have asked me what we are doing and before I get into the details, I want to say three things.
- Sleep training can exist without scheduling feedings. This is a mistake I made early on. It also doesn’t mean your baby will sleep for 12 hours at night without needing to eat. Our sleep training goal was for Phoenix to fall asleep independently and go right back to sleep after each feeding. Your goal might look completely different and that is okay!
- Crying It Out (CIO) is not a sleep training method. There are a vast number of methods and ways to sleep train. We are using the Three Day Sleep Solution. The amount of parental involvement is dependent on your families needs. The amount of crying is dependent on your baby’s temperament.
- Sleep training can be implemented in stages. We started first with bedtime and slowly worked our way towards the amount of nighttime feedings and naps.
After I started writing, I realized this post needed to be split-up. Below I’m sharing how we started sleep training and where we are today in regards to bedtime. Next time, I will share about naps, more on the Three Day Sleep Solution and answer any questions you may have for me.
I hope you find encouragement and a little more sleep.
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