When People of the Internet Go Away

Blogger Hey Natalie Jean

I was casually scrolling through Twitter (aka procrastinating my to-do list) when I saw my favorite blogger, Hey Natalie Jean share a post. She said it was her last. While still looking at my phone, I immediately started crying.

That might sound like the most pathetic sentence I have ever written but gosh darn it, it’s completely earnest and not entirely due to pregnancy hormones. Let me explain…

Blogger Hey Natalie Jean

I first started reading Natalie’s blog right after her son Henry was born in the fall of 2010. I found her through someone else’s blog and instantly felt a kindred internet connection. Like Natalie, I am a bit quirky and far too opinionated.

As she continued writing, Natalie became a household name and not just in the blogging community. When infertility became part of my story Natalie was the only person I “knew” that had experienced/is experiencing relatively unexplained infertility. I found comfort in her honesty during the moments when I found comfort in very little.

I had little contact with Natalie until I purchased her book last year (I wrote a review here). There was some confusion with my preorder and she was the sweetest and personally resolved the issue. You can read her last post here. And while the archives are still up I highly suggest reading through some of her essays. They were my favorite. I will miss her writing.

In this era, where it seems everyone has an online presence, I wonder how I’ll feel about my blog after a decade. Will I feel like the effort is still worth it? I enjoy writing and documenting our life but I don’t want to simply add noise for noise sake. The internet is weird and so I constantly ask myself if I’m doing this for the right reasons.

I plan on saving a few of Natalie’s post…the ones that have meant the most to me because I’m not sure how long her blog will still be up. We live in a social media world where we think everything lives on forever. But maybe certain spaces only live on for a moment.

Update: Since publishing this post, Natalie’s blog is no longer live. You can still purchase her book on Amazon.

17 thoughts on “When People of the Internet Go Away”

  1. Aww. I totally get it! I have not yet connected with a blogger so much so that I’ve cried when they’ve shut down, but I definitely get the sadness associated with it.
    But thankfully, you have been able to glean a lot from her before she shut down and that is a blessing!

  2. Yes! I can totally understand this. I followed along with a few preemie mom’s blogs, and then they got to the point where they were stopping, and I felt like I was losing a friend. I loved their writing and felt so invested. Tears are acceptable, pregnancy hormones or not.

  3. That sucks and I totally get how you feel. I’ve become close with a few bloggers recently and sometimes on the days when I’m feeling mom guilt or whatever else it really helps being able to share and relate. But at the same time I get the internet is weird part too and it has me questioning if doing the right thing as well. I know if I ever stopped blogging I would miss my connections with other mommies the most. But maybe you can still keep in touch with her through email or other social media channels.


  4. I love this post and totally agree. It’s weird to think people you feel like you know go away. they might not know it, but they REALLY impact us.

  5. Natalie’s was the first blog I ever followed. I too felt a connection, especially so when she revealed her struggles with her religion. (Same religion I was struggling with.) She has always had a way of putting some of my disjointed thoughts into coherent, beautiful sentences and I will truly miss her essays. I’m glad I have her book to read back on and I hope I can make my little blog for others what her blog has been for me.

  6. This is how I felt about E Tells Tales, though we never interacted as you and Natalie Jean did. It’s sad when a big blog dies (can I say dies?). I totally feel ya on this post!!

  7. I think everyone can relate to this. When there is someone on the internet,etc that you really connect when and then all of a sudden they are gone…that’s hard to stomach at times.

  8. I can absolutely relate to this! One of my favorite bloggers is Glennon from Momastery. She was one of the first bloggers I read and I always felt like her posts spoke straight to my heart (and made me laugh out loud). It’s amazing how we can start to feel so connected to people we’ve never even met!

  9. It really is sad when bloggers go away. I met a lot of friends on Tumblr in the early 2010s and most of them have gone now which is a shame. But I think we just need to be grateful that they were a part of our community & wanted to share a part of their lives with us x

    Erin | beingerin.com

  10. I really enjoyed this post, because I think the internet will have changed in 10 years from now and it’ll be really interesting to see just how much it has or hasn’t.
    x Kenzie // Kenzieblogslife.blogspot.com

  11. it’s something that hurts my heart too – but it’s something i’ve thought of as well.
    some days/weeks/months blogging just doesn’t feel worth it – and other times i just have to write to get it out.
    i have no idea what will be in store in the next 5-10 years or so with blogging (because let’s keep it real, like you said, there are so many bloggers now-a-days) but i hope to always be a part of the online community in some way.

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