One of my most favorite parts of blogging is the ability to look back and see growth and development: individual growth, but also communal (friendship) growth. Mike and Keira have popped up a few times on A Short Blonde. Jordan and Mike were in two bands that toured together ten years ago (!) but it wasn’t until they came down for a wedding in Chicago two years ago that our friendship as a foursome really developed.
In April we spent several days exploring Toronto with Mike and Keira and a few weeks ago they came to Nashville! I’m excited to see where we’ll meet up next.
We took our job as tour guides seriously and brought them to all of our favorite places: from burgers to pizza, from coffee to books, from records to pumpkins and even a little bit of country music.
Did you read this article, The Myth of Quality Time? I first heard about it on the Around the Table Podcast. Essentially the author claims it is impossible to plan deep connection. It isn’t quality time, but quantity time which allows for relationships to blossom.
“We delude ourselves when we say otherwise, when we invoke and venerate “quality time,” a shopworn phrase with a debatable promise: that we can plan instances of extraordinary candor, plot episodes of exquisite tenderness, engineer intimacy in an appointed hour.”
It is in the mundane weekends, running errands, folding laundry and cooking dinner where marriages become strengthened. It is the family vacations and weekend visits where deep conversations happen randomly while kids are running around in circles. Despite the fact that Mike and Keira live in another country the only kind of time we’ve experienced together has been amazing; quantity filled with quality.
^ If you leave Nashville without visiting at least two coffee shops you didn’t do it right! 😉
^ I didn’t realize we matched like a family Christmas card until AFTER I began going through the photos! Haha.