“We learn the hard way over and over that the sweetness of our marriage is directly related to how much time we spend together. I know some couples who do a little better when they’re out of each other’s hair, couples who would hate to work together, would drive each other crazy in meetings together or working across from one another at the same table, but for us, time together has been the medicine we need when things are off.” — Shauna Niequist, Bittersweet.
I’ve realized that my ideal date isn’t the traditional combination of dinner and a movie. Partly because most nights I’m ready for bed by 10 pm and sitting in a dark movie theater, doesn’t reconnect me to Jordan. Don’t get me wrong I love going to see movies, but I’m a matinee girl or a red box rental wrapped up in a cozy blanket movie watcher.
Day dates are my favorite. I love spending a whole day with Jordan and will forgo a haphazard evening out, for a day together even if it means we’re planning several weeks out. This might be because when we started dating, I lived in a dorm where boys had restricted access and prior to our wedding we lived with our respective parents. Venturing out was how we spent time alone. I wanted to soak up any time we had together, which is harder to do in a movie theater and a crowded restaurant.
Jordan would pick me up in his red Ford Focus and drive, possibly to Chicago or another suburb to discover and adventure together. Sometimes we even drove the 45 minutes to Ikea just to walk around and eat in their cafeteria!
We experienced a beautiful sunny 60 degree day recently (how I wish that was today as I am currently snowed in!) and while I cooked breakfast, Jordan went on the necessary morning coffee run. After our plates were cleared, we went exploring through a few of the vintage/antique shops down the street from us. I became rather enthralled by the stacks of old photos — full of lives and stories I’ll never know.
Walking through the aisles, allowed us to plan — sharing goals and dreams for the future. I love living life with Jordan.
What about you, what are your favorite kind of dates? How do you stay connected?
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